There are so many details that go into a wedding (and different family members/friends with their opinions.) We are seeing a trend in couples customizing their wedding to reflect THEIR personality. I'm sure a few Great Aunts and Uncles are still talking about the unbelievable tradition that was messed with. Bottom line - the wedding is about the union of two in love and joining of friends and family to support this new couple as they tackle life together. Make it a meaningful day for you. YOU get to choose what traditions to carry over and special elements to include and honor your two and special friends and family.
Below are a few twists on traditional elements we've seen or heard our couples talk about while planning their wedding at the Barn at Bay Horse Inn.
1.) Forego the traditional cake!
If you both aren't huge cake fans, perhaps consider an alternative. Many are opting for cupcakes, pie, fondue fountains, doughnuts, cotton candy, waffles and even pizza!
Another change to the cake we are seeing is the variety of toppers. Sarah and Derek chose this custom made copper arrow instead of the typical bride and groom.
2.) A Modern take on the Unity Candle!
A great way to show the blending of your lives and family over the candle is a photo box frame filled with sand. We love this alternative (especially since candles are hard to light outside). Ashley and Spencer added this new tradition into their ceremony.
We've also heard of having guests hold onto a small stone during the ceremony and then combining them into an arrangement afterwards. You can also search for planting a tree and even rope knoting to include.
We love that these new traditions are then displayed in the home vs. stored in a box like most unity candles are.
3.) Something blue under the shoe!
Most of our brides include something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. Ashley had a hidden message for Mike. We've also heard of bridesmaids signing the bottom of the shoes for a keepsake or even part of her wedding vows. (I guess if she faints a cheat sheet is nearby.)
4.) Toss the Guest Book!
Turn your guest book into a keepsake art piece! Collect notes from your guests to display in your home. Ashley and Mike used this vintage wood with paint markers. We've also seen frames with matt boards to sign around a favorite wedding photograph or even a globe. You can also create an art piece and have each guest contribute to the painting.
5.) A Sunday Brunch Wedding!
Sunday weddings are growing in popularity. Not only are the budget friendly but they can include many unique details for a memorable experience. Include a waffle bar or omelet station. Hand out Mimosa's for the traditional toast. You'll often save money on the venue fee along with many of the other vendors. You'll even have a greater chance of hiring your favorite photographer, DJ, band, etc. as Sundays book last.
Remember brides and grooms this day is about YOU TWO. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to please everyone and add even more stress. So, pick what you two want to include and stand firm. Aunt Bertha will survive without her cake, making her own waffle, or whatever else you have planned. In fact, she'll be talking about your UNIQUE twist to others.